oday I’m going to be addressing the top six reasons why people who need help from a counsellor are reluctant to reach out and begin the process. These reasons are gleaned from my years of experience working with people who, after meeting, have asked themselves the question, “Why did I wait so long?” Time Most people would probably describe themselves as busy. Many of us actually are. We may have multiple jobs, multiple hobbies, and multiple children, and all of these entail multiple demands. However, if we take a good look at our schedules, we may find that a good percentage of our “busy” time could be spent much more productively. While I was working my way through university, I was employed by my school’s athletic department as an Academic Coach. Basically, my job was to help the student athletes avoid losing their academic eligibility to play for the sports teams. At the beginning of each semester, I would sit down with each athlete from each team and go over their course schedule, help them set goals, and if necessary teach them study skills and time-management skills. The most common reason I heard from the students to explain academic problems […]
The Positive Outcome of Treatment for ADHD
With enthusiastic permission of the client, I am posting a letter written to me regarding the change that has taken place in this individual’s life as a result of being adequately treated for a lifelong history of ADHD. This client was recently diagnosed as an adult (in his 40s). His comments are dramatic but also very typical of my clients who have sought help for ADHD. Feel free to share it with people you know. “Ever since I was a young boy, I had a feeling of emptiness, like I was missing something inside of me. I always felt like everything I did was wrong or not good enough. I would always get in trouble in school and at home. I couldn’t control my behaviors, my happiness, and my mouth. I felt less-than and unable to make anyone or myself happy. I was so bad that I hated myself and also thought the world would be a better place without me, almost to the point of not wanting to live. I used drugs later on to mask my feelings so I didn’t have to feel the way I did. As I’ve lived this way, my whole life and just accepted […]
Online Pornography Addiction
One of my specialties in counselling is the area of sexual addiction, most specifically pornography. If you or someone you know is struggling with this issue, please take the time to watch these two video clips. In addition, here is a link to a quick screening test. If what you see and hear triggers something inside you, please give me a call. There’s no need for shame, just a need for help and understanding.
Living with ADHD
Here is an interesting documentary on ADHD. It shows some extreme cases and some situations that are very typical of a household with someone who struggles with ADHD. See if you can sit through the whole thing 🙂
Validating Your Brain: The Epic Conclusion
Click here for part 1 and part 2 Up to this point, my last two posts have tried to demonstrate a few key realizations: The brain is working primarily on an unconscious level. Because of this, we are rarely as aware of what we are doing and why as we would like to believe. The brain is well-intentioned and is trying to accomplish its sole purpose, surviving the moment. Because it is focused on surviving the moment, it will make decisions that favour short-term benefits EVERY SINGLE TIME, unless we override it. Because the brain operates primarily on the level of our unconscious, it usually communicates with our conscious brain indirectly. Often, it is trying to get our attention and we are not listening to it, which leads to the perpetuation of problem behaviors, thoughts, and feelings. If we learn to really listen to our brain, it will tell us everything we need to know. The final piece of this trilogy will attempt to focus on the final point I’ve listed above. Specifically, I’m going to be demonstrating how working together with your brain, instead of fighting against it, is the surest way to mental health and a better experience […]
Dr. Gabor Mate on ADHD (or ADD)
Dr. Gabor Mate expresses it very well. If you have questions, drop me a line.
Wondering About ADHD?
Here are the answers to some common questions: What’s the difference between ADHD and ADD There is no difference. ADHD is divided into three types: Inattentive, Hyperactive/Impulsive, and Combined. ADD is the Inattentive type. When it comes to diagnosis, the official label is ADHD. This confusion is probably responsible for many missed cases of ADHD. How do I know if I have it? Psychiatrists or psychologists are the only mental health professionals qualified to diagnose ADHD. If you have concerns, make arrangements to see one of these individuals. The diagnostic criteria for ADHD are as follows: A. Either (1) or (2) 1) Six or more of the following symptoms of inattention have persisted for at least six months to a degree that is maladaptive and inconsistent with the developmental level: Inattention often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behaviour or failure of comprehension) often has difficulty organizing […]